I'm a little disturbed by the shaming of Judy Haim that I see on social media. There's been a little bit of that going on for the past decade, but a little bit more since Corey Feldman released his documentary. Yes, I think there is an attempt to shame Judy. Bear in mind that people don't know the whole story. They know what little snippets they read from interviews and the rest is usually just people offering their opinions on things they don't know enough about. They comment as if they are experts on the subject.
Corey Feldman said some mean, disrespectful things about Judy in his documentary. He's taking personal shots at her, because he feels justified. Why? Judy had asked him not to include her son in his little crusade, and he refused to respect her wishes. Therefore, Judy has been left to defend her family as best she can given the fact that she is somewhat outnumbered and out financed in the battle.
All she has asked for is basic respect for her son, who is no longer here to explain anything or defend himself. Was Corey Haim a victim? I think we can all agree that he was to one degree or another, but what is the truth and what is false is subject to debate. People are pointing fingers at Judy and blaming her for everything, and yet somehow Feldman gets a pass as the supposed best friend who introduced him to some of the bad elements that led his life into a negative direction.
The fact is we don't know everything that happened behind the scenes. If Judy has made mistakes, you can bet that as a mother she has had to live with that. You can also bet that he she and her son had those conversations to bring them to a better understanding. This is between them, and Corey's own stance on this matter should be respected. He loved his mother, and he was there to take care of her when she got sick. These are facts, not spin.
When people want to take shots at Judy, they need to understand that she and her son were in a good place in the end. She loved her son, and her son loved her. There wasn't a lot of dredging of negative things from the past. Corey was there to help her through a difficult time in her life, and he was also planning his return to more acting opportunities. His early demise is what ended that. Everything else at this point is just noise.
Hurling insults at Judy is disrespectful and just plain wrong. It's easy to believe that her son would not be happy with that. Any story about Corey Haim at this point is her and her family's story to tell. She has good reason to speak out against Feldman and any issues she has with what he's been saying, what was written in his book and what was presented in his documentary. She's not a bad person for taking the stance she has taken. She is a mother who has had to deal with the pain of losing her son way too early and simply wants to leave the past in the past. It would be nice if people would stop being so disrespectful to her.
